3 rewards in social media debates

How often do social media debates change someone’s mind? It’s nearly as rare as lightning striking a purple carrot during a solar eclipse. If we aim to convince someone else of our point of view, we don’t get very far, very often. That’s not necessarily an assessment of our argument skills; it’s just the wayContinue reading “3 rewards in social media debates”

Don’t lose focus on the *real* issue

“Blueberries keep falling out of the wheelbarrow.” Jack was frustrated. He pulled his wool scarf up over his ears, which was odd considering it was August. Jill glanced skyward and shook her head. “Birds keep eating the blueberries.” She didn’t add “you simpleton”, but it was implied. “That’s not the point, Jill. It’s like you’reContinue reading “Don’t lose focus on the *real* issue”

Winsome or lose some

If you want to push people away, shut them down, and make them dig their heels in … criticize them, not just their viewpoint or behavior get angry or impatient use sarcasm don’t play fair use deception If you want to draw people in, open them up, and maybe even persuade them of your wayContinue reading “Winsome or lose some”

Pundit attacks comedian and loses — the argument

It was all going so well. A comedian tweeted his viewpoint regarding lockdown protesters. A pundit retweeted it, adding his viewpoint. The first two sentences comprised a valid argument. Then came the third sentence. “We can’t all be wealthy overrated comedians.” It took a hard turn from a valid argument straight into a personal attack.Continue reading “Pundit attacks comedian and loses — the argument”

99.9% agree about school shootings

Everyone but a small handful of evil people agree that school shootings are horrific and that we should seek to stop them. The disagreement is about how we should seek to stop them. Yet, from the tone of much of the debate, you’d think we’re not in agreement on the first point. This is notContinue reading “99.9% agree about school shootings”